What you define?
Most people decide what they think through talking, in the comfort of your own mind, whenever you think about something, you are able to have a hundred different thoughts about any particular subject (often contrary and opposite thoughts). However the real process of actually deciding what you think is done through conversations with our friends and family. The people we are able to have our first thoughts with, without them thinking less of us for it, and it is through their honest micro-reactions, and the things they do not say with their words, rather their pauses and hesitations, their body language and demeanour, that we are able to moderate and refine our opinions and thoughts. As well as being a way of social regulating our thoughts, it is also where it becomes real, it is the first action, we decide on our stance, we define what we actually want and how we see the world, we become the example of what we want to be, we become an instance of what we wish to embody and have the power of being presence with who we have declared ourselves to be.
However it is so easy to just touch upon what we wish for, even in honest open conversation, when we think of our ideal partner, we might be able to list a few virtues or traits that we want, but mostly we just have a feeling. It might just be a feeling of safety, warmness or completeness, it certainly has the ability to make us smile or feel a lack in our lives, it could be emptiness or expectation, though when it comes to something that is so important to us, we tend to be oddly unable to define what it is we actually want. Let alone, how we want that future relationship with our partner to be like. It might just be the habit of conversation that we tend to list the three things we want, any more seems greedy and over demanding, it also has a nice conversational beat, but that does not mean we have to be satisfied with just three wishes because it is nice and tidy, be relentless, fill out the idea, colour them in and then draw outside of the lines. Do not expect reality to be the same as your visualisations, though they do become more powerful and effective in producing changes in your life when you fill them with detail, just do not be over identified with them, obsessed or fixated, switch between the general feeling and detailed visualisation, especially if you start to feel lack at any point.
The temptation for us is to take this future want and use it as confirmation of how unsatisfied and sad we are in the current moment, whatever our life situation might be and how amazing the objective reality may be. It is always worth stopping these trains of thought, and using our stoic training to reflect on everything that we have to be grateful for, and no matter what your life situation is, it is always possible to find meaning in the moment you are in, even if it is just that is a learning experience that you are currently enjoying or a contrast that is showing the way you want to head towards, for instance loneliness is not uncommon (just as is the opposite desire for your own space and time is common for a lot of people in a relationship) though it is useful as an example and contrast for what you do want, and when you have that feeling, you can use it as a reminder of the freedom you currently have to do what you want, but could not in a relationship, so enjoy it now you might not have it later.
Though for most people there is an almost endless list of abundance in your life if you choose to see it, I would expect and indeed would infer by the fact that you are able to read this article at all, that you have food, clothing, warmth, shelter and access via the Internet to a good proportion of the entire knowledge and experience of not just the entire planet today but of the entire history of humanity, and with these incredible gifts (which sadly not everyone on this planet has yet) you have the ability to live an incredible life, you just have to ask for it and know that you want it. If you chose to be grateful it is almost certain that you have an amazing amount of abundance in your life, it is down to you to recognise it. Once you have the feeling of abundance, it becomes easier to add to it.
That is the opportunity that is available for you through defining what it is you actually want, you just have to be prepared to take the single extra step pass just thinking about it, but talking and visualising it, is certainly the first necessary step. There is no substitution in the act of definition more important than actually thinking your thought out loud, as my maths teacher always said, “you have to show your workings,” and in terms of defining, you have to talk through what you want or at least vocalise them and put them out in the world. You can write them down in a journal, you can talk to yourself by asking questions out loud and answering them with your quiet voice, you intuition, you can even discuss them with a friend, you just have to get the words out of your head and into the physical world. And every word you say, every thought you have out loud, changes by that action from something that is unreal, imaginary and merely in our heads, into something that is physically real, the sound of our voices are real, they literally have physical energy, they become sound waves, the words written down on a piece of paper are real and that has its own special kind of magic.
When something is in our head it is a possibility but only one from a whole range of thoughts that we might have had, our minds will lay out all the possibilities, even the strange, illogical and slightly embarrassing one, there will be ones that we just do not want, though each one will be of equal status until we declare our intent clearly to the world. When take a thought from our minds and decided it is worth vocalising, we are changing its nature, we are taking it through the barrier between the imaginary world and the real, and so be careful about what actually makes that quantum leap.
Thoughts only mean something when it is accompanied by action, even the smallest action of just saying it out loud, we have to give the universe something to manifest otherwise it would just sit there waiting like a faithful dog team to serve its master, and it only knows what our commands are, by what we decide to make real, if it obeyed our every thought it would be trying to manifests polar opposites at the same time, as we so often have opposite thoughts running simultaneously. We have to give it every chance to turn up in your world, the more chances you give it, the easier it is for it to turn up, every action that you take that is aligned with your desire, increases the probably of it turning up, and give it the freedom to turn up how it wants, define your desire and then let it be itself without expectations, do not be attached to the result, concentrate on the journey instead. You may say one thing but why limit the entire universe, it might just have a surprise that surpasses even your imagination.
That is what is so powerful about declaring your thoughts, the witches know this, the power of the curse is in the manifestation of the declaration of their thoughts especially when their victims do not declare their own thoughts, they offer the universe no alternative view of how reality should be and therefore allows the witches version of reality to become true. This power is available to anyone, witches have simply practised it more than most, they are perfectly prepared to stubbornly stare down reality and have the self belief to make it change to their view of what it should be.
So when you are thinking of making love potion and casting spells, the simplest and most powerful incarnation you can conjure, is the act of making your desires real by clearly defining what you want your partner to be, how you want your relationship to them to manifest and if you want children, how your relationship will change to include them. It is not just so that universe can manifest what you desire, but so that you know what it is that you actually want, we make it real when we make decisions, you take that vague feeling of being loved and you define it into something real.